So life
continued. Chris came on our winter retreat to help out and then he started
helping coaching AHS girls soccer team w/ me. I mean, at this point, I was
thinking that he had to be interested. I mean, he wanted to coach with me,
which I read, he wants to spend every day with me J I still think that is partly true
but he also did really like soccer. After the winter retreat I thought I would
make a bold move. I got free tickets to Blue Man Group and decided to take the
big leap and ask Chris to come with, as friends of course. I wanted to wait for
him to ask me on the first real date. I nervously dialed his number, he
answered, I told him about the Blue Man Group, very casually of course, and he
said, NO. What the heck! He told me he had a crossfit workout- for real. He
chose the gym over me, well over the Blue Man group, but still. I think he still
regrets that decision, his loss.
Fastbreak/Winter Conference- We sat next to each other. I really liked him. He liked me, he just didnt know it yet :)
The soccer
season continued and I flirted with Chris, we talked, we hung out, he helped
with ministry, etc. I still had no idea what he thought about me. I was
definitely interested. I deleted my e-harmony account b/c I was pretty
confident in this possibility. I remember on Valentines Day, praying for the
whole situation with Chris. God had been so faithful in the past to reveal to
me when the guy wasn’t it. As I was praying, I felt this peace pass over me and
this confidence that Chris was the one. He was the guy I was going to marry. I
had never felt this feeling before. Let me remind you that we still hadn’t
really even gone a real date. I had no idea if he was really interested in me.
But I felt like the Lord said, this is it; this is who you have been praying
for. I kept this sweet little knowledge to myself and my mother of course. I
knew that she wouldn’t think I was crazy. My mom had faithfully been praying
each day that God would bring my husband into my life. When I told her, she was
excited and started to pray more specifically with me.
One of the many pre-dating times we hung out
Not too
soon after my revelation from the Lord, Chris asked me on a date. Well, he
calls it a semi-date. He would say that our first real date was in March and
this little hang out was just a pre-date- whatever that means. He was
interested, but not really fully interested yet, so he had to go slow. We had
soccer games every Friday night, so after one of the games in Feb, we went and
grab some food, super casual, but also very fun. We talked, we ate, he paid, and
it was great! We continued these little dates for about a month. Now let me
tell you, not many people around me were happy at this point with Chris. They
felt like he was leading me on, which in some ways he might have been but I was
interested and felt like he was the one, so I was willing to wait it out. It
wasn’t easy at times, I read into everything and many times tried to figure out
what he was thinking by talking to just about everyone I knew that knew both of
us. I never really knew exactly what he was thinking but I wanted to wait till
I knew for certain.
Now the
real date was in March. He called to ask me out a week in advance and planned
this whole night. Unfortunately we had a fundraising dinner for soccer that we
needed to attend that same night. We decided to do both. He picked me up for
the date, I dressed all fancy, he wore a sports jacket and we had a fabulous
night. We went to the soccer dinner part first, didn’t eat anything b/c we had
a real dinner afterwards. He took me to this sweet little Thai place, which had
the most amazing food. This is the part of the date that threw me for a loop
though. We are driving home after a nice date and we pull up into the driveway.
I open my door, assuming that Chris is going to walk me to the door, but he
doesn’t!!! I get out, walk around the car and walk to the front door, ALONE! He
claims that he froze and didn’t know what to do. The driveway was in the back
of the house, the town homes that have all the front doors facing each other to
make it more pleasing to the eye. Needless to say, he didn’t walk me to the
door, I didn’t think he had a great time; I thought he was not interested. You
can see now how girls read into EVERYTHING!
As we all
know how the story ends, he did like me. He just froze, totally forgiven. From
March to April, we continued to go on dates. He would pay, I would eat, it was
glorious. You see though, we still never talked about how we felt. So this
whole time, I was reading into everything he did to try and figure out what he
was feeling. He was the good guy that gave me side hugs, never tried to kiss me
or even hold my hand. I was left wondering.
Spring
break happened, well it happened for the high school kids and we got to enjoy
it as well b/c we work with them. Chris jetted off to Cali to spend time with
his sister and I went with the soccer team to the beach. That whole entire
week, Chris only texted me twice!!! Seriously, we were steadily going on dates
and only 2 text messages the ENTIRE WEEK, 7 DAYS!!! I am not going to lie; I
started to freak out a little. I thought it was done. I was starting to get a
little sad.
I get back
to ATL and Chris calls me, a very pleasant surprise after a week of only 2 text
messages. He asks me to pick him up from the airport. Of course I said yes. I
mean at this point I was not only crushing and falling for him; I was starting
to fall in LOVE with him. Yes, my people, LOVE! I picked him up @ the airport
and drove him to his car, which was parked at the Marta station up north. We
sat in the car and talked more. We talked a lot. At one point, he kind of
starts playing with my hand and holding it!!! YES!!! HE LIKED ME!!! He then got
out the car and said he bought me something while he was in Cali. He was actually
thinking about me while he was out there. He did only send 2 text messages but
he bought me something, I was BEYOND EXCITED!!! He handed me this cute little
stuffed animal and asked me to come to his house for dinner the next night!
The next
night I went over to his house. This was the first time I had gone over there
and he cooked me this amazing Mexican dinner. We ate on the porch on a perfect
April night. As the night went on, the conversation started to get a little
more serious. Chris started sharing how he felt about me and that he had been
praying all week in Cali about what to do next when it came to us. (That is one
of the reason why he didn’t talk to me the whole week, he wanted a clear mind
to really hear from the Lord about what to do with us- it would have been nice
to know in advance but oh well) He said that he wanted to officially start
dating, like boyfriend, girlfriend, we are a couple, we don’t date other people
type relationship. I was game, and once again, I said yes. We officially started
dating on April 8th, 2011……
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